Summer Reflections: Giving and Receiving Life

A friend once asked me, “What is life giving for you?”

I know she didn’t expect me to answer right there and then, and she told me that the answer didn’t matter to her.  The question she had asked was to prompt me to engage in the mental exercise of determining for myself what is life giving – what breathes life into my face, heart, spirit, body, etc.

What fills me has always been connecting with people, and my life experiences have been about how to make those connections.

On a cool night in June, I had invited my father to a community fundraiser for a non-profit where I volunteer.  He could not figure out why, with my busy schedule and full-time job, I would take on another responsibility. 

I wanted to show him.

After the fundraiser where he saw art auctioned off to support the organization, met my fellow volunteers, and listened to an explanation of what our organization does, he was even more curious about how I spend my time. 

On our way to his home, I took him by the non-profit, deep in the heart of a community in desperate need of attention from businesses, government, healthcare professionals, investors, and community activists. 

I showed him the area that housed our non-profit as well as the building itself.  I explained to him the services it provides to those in need living within that community.  Once he could see the building, its sign, and its parking lot, and after listening to my explanation, he understood.

“So you do this because you want to?” he asked.

I nodded, and I explained that it fed me to know that I could help other people with the gifts I’ve been given. 

“Like the artists said, dad,” I replied, “you’ve got to use your gifts to help others.  It’s then you know you’re on the right path.”

He understood.

“It’s the same reason why I do the free fitness classes in the same community, to help people see themselves in a different, better light, and to show them their own healing and potential.” 

He got it.

As we neared his home so I could drop him off, I realized that perhaps my explanation wasn’t so much a teaching lesson for my father as it was for me.  It was the first time I had verbalized the feeling of “life giving” to myself.  It was the first time I had acknowledged what I need out of this life to feel purposeful.  I realized, perhaps more importantly, that I had already given myself permission to seek and live these connections.  The non-profit building, the community, the rows of businesses in disrepair, and the conversation with my father all reminded me that I was already living a life giving life. 

Giving yourself permission to seek out what you want is one thing.  But taking a step back and realizing you’ve done it – to me, I cannot think of anything more life giving than that.

© 2016 Melanie Glover. All rights reserved.

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Reminder to the Young Professional: It’s a Marathon, Not a Sprint

You didn’t train for a sprint; we are here for the long haul.  This professional marathon is a constant battle toward balance and wellness – and you CAN do it.

So you’ve done it.  You’ve graduated from school, secured a new job, and begun paying off those student loans.  Congratulations!  Despite the adrenaline rush with which you might initially attack your new, post-student life, ensuring a sustainable rhythm of work and life is critical to achieving and maintaining overall homeostasis in the body.  Many of us new professionals may be young and healthy, but we should not underestimate the toll that stress can take on our bodies over time under continued stress.  Instead, focus your energy on making intentional commitments toward wellness in your everyday life.

Nutrition

While you may have more cash flow now to explore healthier food options, the temptation is to eat out or invest this money in the convenience of food prepared for you.  But cooking for yourself can save money and encourage healthier choices, and it can even be therapeutic!  Check out a cooking class near you for ideas, pick up a cookbook at your local bookstore, or browse the web for numerous food blogs or e-books on healthy, easy meal ideas.  Mealtimes do not have to be heavy, either.  Consider eating more frequently, and contemplate consuming lighter food throughout the day to sustain energy levels and keep your metabolism burning calories while sitting at a desk or in client meetings.  Include balanced meals of protein, healthy fats, vegetables, fruits, and complex carbohydrates to avoid sugar peaks and cravings toward the end of the day.

Spice up a chicken dish with cilantro for a burst of flavor.

Spice up a chicken dish with cilantro for a burst of flavor.

Exercise

Exercise can be a substantial stress reliever, and it is important for long-term health to avoid cardiovascular disease.  Consider aerobic as well as anaerobic activities to help you maintain a healthy weight, build muscle mass, and reduce stress.

  1. Walking: This activity can be very therapeutic.  Even if you cannot fit in a 30-minute walk, consider getting up from your desk for even five- or 10-minute bouts of walking it out.
  2. Resistance training:  If you are looking to lose weight, resistance training is a great way to build muscle mass to increase your overall metabolic rate and burn more calories over a sustained period.  Consider an organized circuit routine at your local gym to become acquainted with exercise equipment if you are not familiar with resistance training.
  3. At-home exercises:  Focus on a particular muscle group, or simply choose your lower body or upper body to make at-home exercises more mentally engaging.  Sample exercises may include quick bursts of cardio such as jumping jacks, jump squats, lunges, and high knees mixed with resistance training with dumbbells, resistance bands, or kettle bells (this equipment makes for easy storage at home).
  4. Group fitness activities:  Find a colleague to accompany you on a walk and hold a walking meeting during work hours, or sign up for a group-fitness class at your local gym.  This is a great opportunity to be social and get moving!

Stress-Management Techniques

The following list includes a few tips worth exploring to maintain a healthy frame of mind:

  • Adequate rest and sleep
  • Vitamins and hydration
  • Mindfulness, meditation, breathing practices, yoga, and stretching
  • Music therapy
  • Hobbies: reading/book clubs, cooking, sports, etc.
  • Support: Personal relationships, professional development, community involvement/volunteer work
Rest by conserving your energy as you simply perceive what is in front of you.

Rest by conserving your energy as you simply perceive what is in front of you.

While we want to make the best use of our time by scheduling every moment of our day, make sure to leave some time for yourself to relax in your personal space, enjoy a cup of coffee or tea, or read a chapter in that new book.  The thought of not having to do anything at all is somehow especially relaxing in our daily lives that are oftentimes quantified by billing or invoicing instead of being and perceiving the moment before us.

© 2016 Melanie Glover. All rights reserved.